Greetings and welcome to Awakening With Brahma Kumaris. Welcome, Sister. Om Shanti. Om Shanti and welcome to Living Values. Thank you. I was thinking about living values. I read a line in connection to it. It says – we need two kinds of education. One that teaches us how to make a living. And one that teaches us how to live. Today our education system The entire system is focused on how to make a living. In our entire education it happens sometimes, but there is not enough focus on how to live our life. We read in the shastras about the Gurukul system. For example how should a king be? He was being taught about it. They were being taught both the things How to rule the Kingdom Trained on that aspect also in terms of Administration. In terms of War about how to fight a battle So even that was being taught. So basically they were taught about what to do. But along with that they were also taught about values. Spirituality also was taught. The system was called Gurukul. They were being taught about compassion. When Raja Janak was taught by Ashtavakra He was given the complete knowledge – spiritual knowledge. King Janak told his Guru that he would want to withdrawal from everything and go into the jungle. But Ashtavakra said – No. You need to understand all this knowledge and then sit on your throne. What are we being taught today? Today we are being taught how to become an engineer. Today we are being taught how to become a doctor. More of I, me. You mentioned about the kings in those days They were taught to think about “We”. It was about my – My people, my village, my state, my country. How do I have to be – was being taught. You mentioned about my state, my country and my citizens. How should I be with them? This was being taught isn’t it? It means the kingdom is to be ruled but who is an able ruler? An able ruler is not just the one who can fight a war. An able ruler is not even one who just knows administration But an able ruler is one who is loved by his subjects or people. An able ruler was one who would engage in charity. An able ruler was one who, when his people faced even a slight problem Those people could speak to the king as if they were talking to their family. And the king would find a solution to their problem. A king was trained in all these aspects. And when he took all the straining and then became a king Then he became an able king. If we apply this to today’s system. Today we are doctors, engineers, jurists, administrators Politicians, businessmen We are into all these professions. But our education system, our elders What we learnt from our society Was only limited to how to become these professions or designations. If someone wants to be a doctor, what are they being taught? Only about treatment. How to treat the patient, how to perform a surgery Is it being taught in any medical school that – Is it ingrained into that person that compassion is an integral part of healing? Are they taught that if there is no compassion, there cannot be healing? There will only be treatment. This is not being taught to doctors. Today we are having to talk about ethics in medical profession. Corruption cannot be a part of medical profession. We are discussing about it today but when were they supposed to be taught about it? When we were creating doctors. But they are being told -is the right way of living for me you will be expelled from this Hospital if you do not meet business targets that are set. This quotation is teaching us that the entire education system – which means whatever we learn It’s not just the school and college education system. It is. like you said Management. We need to learn and do as they say. The entire education system we have is on the basis of how to make a living. How to earn money? And it is such a beautiful line which says – We need an education system which teaches us how to live. We thought if we are able to make a living, then life will be beautiful. We thought if we earn money then life becomes very beautiful. Show all our focus was on how to make a living. What is the result today? We have earned a lot and are continuing to earn more money. On that front our progress has multiplied many, many folds in the last few years. But internally we are becoming empty. We are withdrawing a little from each other. As a result our emotional health is not as good as we want it to be. In terms of Mental Health the depression rate is increasing. Are Physical health has been deteriorating. Our relationships are declining. But our progress financially has been increasing. Because focus our education system was on only one of the two parameters. How to make a living? Values today have become such that My family lives in Hyderabad. One of our neighbours had a heart attack. Just one floor below him, there was a cardiologist. When everyone rushed to the doctor, you know what he said? Today is Sunday. I don’t work today. And that patient died. However we cannot even say that everyone is like that. There are very noble souls in this world too. My daughter had a slightly earlier delivery. Her doctor was in the aircraft flying somewhere. That person you that my daughter is due in about 10 days. When he got a call, he told them it was an emergency, got his luggage out and immediately rushed to my daughter. How to make a living was taught to both the doctors. This person also became a doctor and other one also. Despite both being doctors – their profession is the same but their values are different. Their profession is the same and what they need to do everyday is the same. Meeting patients, healing them, performing surgeries, giving treatments – every day. It is the same for both. In fact it is same for all doctors. They all have the same routine. What both had to do was the same. But the way they go about it is different for each person. What will their way of working be dependent on? It depends on the values and principles which that person has decided upon. Value system is present in each of us. But today we need to again check our value system. What is the right way of living for me? But I have seen very few people like that. No, it doesn’t happen that way. Everyone has values, but there are several values as it is. We bring a few of those values into our living. You mentioned a particular doctor upfront said – I do not see patients on Sunday. So the particular value of compassion or caring May not be in that soul. Or he may not have not have prioritised that particular value in his way of living. But that does not mean he does not have any other values in his life. He does have. It is possible that the person is very peaceful. He never gets angry. It means he has held onto the value of peace. But has not held onto the value of compassion. And the other doctor about whom you mentioned It may be that on his priority list of values, compassion is on top. It is also possible that while he is working, he may scold his staff. Which means he has the value of compassion in healing. But not the values of peace and love in his way of working. There can’t be anyone who does not even follow a single value. Everyone lives by some values. But we need to check That in my ways of living and in my priority list What are the values that come right on top? Living values which means my way of living What are the core values in it that you have held on to? That no matter what happens, and not just occasionally, If it is occasional then it cannot be our value. No matter what happens, whenever I need to take a decision in my life Then what will be the parameter for me to take the decision? My values will be the parameters to take decisions. Few days ago a couple came to us and said they have a job offer. Both husband and wife had a job offer each. They were not able to take a decision whether they should accept or how to go about it. The complexity in it was that The job offer was excellent and it would take their careers very, very high. The pay package was also good and everything else was also good. But it needed that both husband and wife lived in different cities. Because one of them got an offer in one city and the other in a different city. But the job, salary and position offered were all very good. But stress and pressure were more likely to be high in their jobs. When we get such offers on hand Which means when we need to take decisions in life Before taking the decision our value system should be with us. That what is my priority? If my priority is not already set It will take me many days to arrive at a decision. In my earlier years my priority was to be an actor. Buying house in Bombay. And get my children enrolled into good schools and colleges. I did not even think of any other priorities at that time. Then it was all under the category of making a living, isn’t it? Becoming an actor, buying a house Giving a good living to the family. Sending kids to good schools. What is the intention behind sending your children to good schools? Good schools will mean they will have a good education. If they have a good education they will have a good career in future. If they have a good career then their living will also be good. Generation after generation where are we focusing on? How to make a living? Very often what we do in this process is Today people are giving bribes to get admission in good schools. Same happens with College admission also. So then it nearly becomes a habit. So we will not have a hesitation or difficulty in bribing someone. When we are in our work life, then using such unethical means will not seem to be very difficult. Because what was on our priority list? Work should get done, kids should get admission, project should be completed… We will say – What is wrong in giving and taking somethings in the process? A producer came to me once with a man whom he wanted to cheat. He asked to take advance money from him, because anyway the picture would not be made. I said No. I would tell that man – that he was being cheated. Your picture will not get released and whatever is the setup You have invested a few lakhs which is your earnings of a lifetime, please do not lose it here. You please leave, I don’t need it. These agents would criticize me for refusing to take the advance booking money. I don’t know if that man would get cheated elsewhere by some other actor. I had another value which I lived by. I was asked to enact rape scene in a movie. I said – Sorry, I will not do. You mentioned about preparing a Priority list. Once you have your priority list, in your entire film career of say 40 years You might have got such chances several times. They would even tell me in Punjabi – what difference will it make to you? just take the advance. Later on we will give that role to another actor. The agent who brought him to you What was his way of living? I need to earn money. I need to make a living. He was clear that he wanted his 10% commission. His priorities for his values did not have that – I should not earn money by harming someone, cheating someone or by exploiting someone. It was not in his values. You mentioned that you did not want to take signing amount from such people. When you were aware that his money would go for a loss and he was being cheated. But like that agent told you – if you would not take that money, someone else will take it. Which is the fact that someone else will take that money. Simple. There are people who will take, they will continue to take. Likewise there are people who will give and they will continue to give. This is our society – there are people who will take and there are people who will give. But there are also some people who are not ready either to take or to give. Even if everyone else does, they will not engage in unethical practices. Which means those who do not engage in such practices, they have made it a part of their value system. That no matter what happens, even if my work is held up, I will not take or give money unethically. In your own career of 40 years you might have had chances many times, to take money. Many people came. Producers were angry with me. Even my friends become my enemies. Now let us look at this. Office came to you. Friends would have made offers. And offers might have been attractive. Definitely. In the process there came a scene – Now there is a period in which we have to make a decision. Whether I need to accept this movie or reject it. Where values are set, priority is fixed and principles are decided That I should never engage in such things In that case how long will it take for you to make a decision? 1 second. This is what it is. Which means our way of living will become very simple Because our compass or our guiding star of values is with us. And our compass points out to us that I should not be doing this. So there will not be a time gap to take a decision. I don’t need to think. I don’t need to consult other people. I don’t need to do anything. It is already fit into my value system as – This is not for me. When this is so clear, living life becomes so simple. Now this will be different for different people. Like you said – I did not take that money but someone else will take. That you did not do that movie scene but someone else will agree to do. They are also actors and you are also an actor. But everybody’s value compass will be different. Until recently, living by value system used to be a very natural process. The natural process for me was That I would study at the Film Institute I would become an actor, take good care of my family, and give good acting to my children. This was my priority. But I did not have a list of values explicitly prepared. If I did not like something from within I would not do it. If I liked something I would do it. But like how you did in these two instances It increases soul power. Because we talk to our values. You did not compromise on it even though there were temptations. You got attractive offers. Other people influenced and insisted that you do it. You did not succumb to them even once. You did not get into it. By doing this the soul becomes very powerful. It is possible only we stick to our value system. In today’s times if we look around There are many souls among us Who do not even need time to give up their values. We are not even talking of major things like corruption or something really wrong. But even basic values like compassion, care, love, sharing Ever since the Sanskar of competition has entered our life Ever since our education system taught us that we are competing with each other, and we are in a race The Sanskar of cooperation started finishing. We don’t even have to think twice To do something wrong to the other person, so that we get ahead of them. Because our education system has taught us – To make a living, you have to go ahead. And if you have to go ahead, the other person has to be behind you. In the process if we have to do something wrong, we did not even pause to think. Are you suggesting that living values should start right from school education? Absolutely. It has to start then. It has to start with children isn’t it? Whether it is taught at school or at home It is a Yes. The way of living at home It has a very huge influence on the child. Did you teach the child the right way to live life? Or do you teach a child only about scoring marks, passing exams, coming first in exams Getting admission to universities and becoming a successful professional? Our bank balances have increased today. So it is a very beautiful line that you share today – making a living and living a life. Very beautiful and both of them are needed. You should not be that we are focused solely on values. We have to make a living. But we have to learn that to make a living, what are the values we need to use. So that life will be a beautiful experience. Today we are making a living, we are doing very well and we have achieved a lot. But we are not happy because of only one reason. Not necessarily. That we are not happy. I don’t think you are right here. We are not happy. There are a lot of people who don’t follow values and engage in unethical practices Don’t you think they are happy? The travel a lot, party a lot. Do you mean to say they are not happy? There is one simple thing – that you cannot make out whether the other person is happy or not They might travel extensively and attend parties all the time. They are travelling by earning this kind of money which is unethical. But is there peace in their mind? Yes, they are peaceful. Can they sleep well at night? Yes. No. Are there relationships good? People definitely sleep well because such money is entering every house. People say – It is normal, that is why I took up this profession I came to this job only so that I could earn more through any means. They have so much clarity on their mind. You will not know the answer to whether they are happy, they are contented Whether they sleep well, whether their relationships are good You will not know the answer. You will not know the truth. Only and only that’s all will know the truth. And they will not reveal it to anyone else. Nobody else can ever make out externally. What do we see externally? If that soul is aware that such corrupt earnings is making him sad Why will he engage in such practices every other month? He is not aware that he is unhappy because of this corrupt money. But is he happy and contented in life? He is not contented that is the reason every month he demands double the money. It means he is not happy inside. He wants more. The craving and desire for more. He will be happy when his bank balance increases. He had in thousands, then in lakhs and today he has in crores. If you had got happiness that way He would have stopped wanting or asking for more. Until now he has not even reached the happiness which he is wanting. That is why he still using the wrong way even now. If I feel I have achieved what I wanted I will stop seeking for it. I have not achieved it. That is why I am looking for more and more and more I am trying to do everything in my life so that I feel happy. Let’s look at our own life, why talk about anybody else? Today we have everything, earned a lot, even earned a good position. Not just money but position, name, fame. Why are we still sad, not contented, depressed, and ill? Why are relationships crumbling? Why are we going to temples, mosques gurdwaras, saints? And asking them to grant us at least 1 minute of peace? I totally agree with this point that That even among the richest people, own siblings don’t talk to each other, they fight with each other. Even the richest man goes to a Guru and falls at his feet and asks for a wish to be fulfilled. I don’t know what exactly they will want. The mind is not peaceful within. There is no problem with going to Saints or Gurus. But what are the seeking? One minute of peace. What is the proof that they are unhappy because their money is earned unethically? We cannot connect it and say this emotion is because of this. But a path which was supposed to be our way of life The compass leading us to that path. Suppose I need to go from here to there. I can use a GPS. Earlier we used to use a compass to show directions. Even an aircraft uses a compass. If he goes by that compass Then he will reach his destination. While travelling on the journey of life, we said that the compass of values does not work. Why did we say it doesn’t work? Because if you consider the ‘Make a living’ aspect The value compass was slowing the down a bit. Suppose my compass of values says honesty. Show honesty is my compass. But I see some people around me doing certain unethical things and earning more. Moreover I was taught that whoever earns more is more successful. So what do I do to this compass of honesty? I say it doesn’t work. Today very easily and casually we say that complete honesty in business does not work. So values which were a natural way of living Today we say about values that they don’t work. So will let go of that compass. If we had held on to that value compass We would have earned money and along with that, we would have earned contentment also. We would have earned a good name but we would have earned contentment also. We would earn happiness and the soul would have been very powerful. We dropped the compass We would have earned a good name for living by values and principles. There would be so much trust to say – Buy from this shop. Even if he charges 2 Rupees higher, it will be of pure quality. But what had our belief system become? That respect is given to someone who is wealthy, popular, owns a bungalow. That happens even now. Then what happens to the compass? You said that happens even now. Then we need to choose one of the two ways of living. Whether to hold on to the compass on this journey Compass means an inner voice that speaks When it tells us – Don’t do this What did we do to that voice? We suppressed that it saying it doesn’t work. A few days ago a few of us were sitting together A senior said to a junior from same profession – You are so sincere. It is very difficult to get going if you are sincerity in this profession. I just looked at him and asked – What are you sharing? Sincerity is his value. That senior replied – I agree. But it does not help to be sincere in this profession. He cannot sustain or progress if he is this way. So gradually what are we advising each other? That if you want to be in this profession – which means if you want to progress and go ahead of others Your simplicity, your sincerity, your honesty Instead of them being the guiding force to progress Today we are being taught by people around us that these values are obstacles to our progress. A sole who comes under the influence of such ill-advice Will drop this value compass. A soul who holds onto this value compass Will say – Never mind. I am fine with how much ever I progress. Beyond certain point if I will not be able to progress, it doesn’t matter. But I will live by my compass of values. A soul who chooses this way will experience not only progress, but also contentment. These two things – the way to live our life. It is very important. So we really need to stop and introspect. And it is not only about earning money. It’s about our way of living. We hear about a beautiful incident from Ramayan That when Sita crossed that line called Lakshman Rekha, Ravan abducted her. That Lakshman Rekha signifies the line of discipline. It signifies the line of our values. Shri Ram ji says – as long as you are inside the boundary of this line of values Then you are protected. But if you give in to temptation Looking at the deer if you give in to temptation And cross the line or boundary of values Then the vices, symbolised by Ravan Will catch you. And then the soul which is symbolised by Sita She is imprisoned by Ravan. So that line of values or discipline – we need to check it once again. We will certainly check it in the next episode, Sister. Thank you so much. Om Shanti. Om Shanti. Thank you.