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Melinda Gates on Raising Ambitious and Altruistic Children | SuperSoul Sunday | OWN


– You mentioned
raising your children and wanting to be
the kind of person that can live an example– exemplified life
before them, and I know your daughter is here. I often wonder–
and I ask this not because you’re one of the
richest people on the planet Earth, but because– [LAUGHING] –I also ask this of my
friends who are just well off. How do you raise– how do you raise kids
who are responsible and kind, who grow up
with a sense of grace, and yet have their own
ambition when they have access to literally everything? How you do that? Well, I wouldn’t– I would say it’s
purposeful over time, and again, I believe in putting
lots of drops in the bucket. And I wouldn’t say
I’ve gotten it right. My daughter Jen, my
oldest who’s here, would tell you I have
made mistakes too. But I think you constantly
go back to your values. And our–
– Do you? Because when I was
growing up, my mother– you know, we were poor, so when
she said we couldn’t afford it, I knew we couldn’t afford it. You can never say
we can’t afford it. [LAUGHING] But– that’s true, and I
wrestled with that with Jen. Right, Jen? You can never say,
you can’t have that. We can’t afford it.
Put that down. [LAUGHING]
– Yeah. MELINDA GATES: And my– I got that message
from my parents too, because we couldn’t
afford some things. Yes. But just because you can,
doesn’t mean you should. Right? So just because I could
buy my daughter whatever– [APPLAUSE] OPRAH WINFREY: Yeah. MELINDA GATES:
–doesn’t mean I should. Like she doesn’t learn if I
just buy it for her, or my son. And so our kids have always
had an allowance growing up, and then bigger things that
they wanted that their allowance wouldn’t pay for, they put
on their Christmas list and my– or birthday list,
and they might get it off their list from
us or a relative, or they might not get it. But they started to learn
the responsibility of money. And they know that our
hope and our dream for them is to grow up and to find
whatever it is they have– all kids have amazing
potential and talent and to use that talent
on behalf of the world. And I think one of the things– OPRAH WINFREY: Well, you
have to be doing a good job to have enormous
amounts of wealth and still have your kids grow
up with their own ambition. Because I’ve also talked
to people who say, well, what are you going to do? You can’t get the kids to work. You know? But I think our kids see
Bill and I work very hard. We don’t have to work
anymore, I mean, but we do. We work hard every single day. I mean, we take some vacations,
so you know, we take time off, but we work hard. And I think the other
thing our kids see is they have been fortunate
to travel a lot, both really nice travel, but they have been
in and out of the developing world a lot too. And so they see– I mean, even from age 10 I
started taking them out– they see how lucky they are. Lucky not just to
be in our family, lucky to have grown up
in the United States. Jen’s shaking her head there. Right?
Yeah. MELINDA GATES: Right? Because I think if you’re a
girl born in the United States, you are already one of the
luckiest girls in the world– Absolutely. OPRAH WINFREY: –if you look
at the rest of the world. Yes. I have to ask you this though. As Melinda Gates, do you still
look at the prices of things? [LAUGHING] Depends on what it is. My husband actually
memorizes the prices. If we go out to dinner and I’m
taking a long time to order, and I’m like, oh, am I
going to have the chicken or the fish or the steak? And he’ll go $19.95 for
the chicken, you know, $39.95 for the steak. Not that he cares how
much we spend on it, but he’ll memorize the prices. So I sometimes
just count on him. OPRAH WINFREY: Really? And can you ever– like
Gail, the other day, we were someplace,
and she went shopping and she brought me
this pocketbook. She goes, it was
regularly like $1,575 and I got it for
$1,000 for you, $1,000. I talked the guy out of $575.
[LAUGHING] That’s fun. OPRAH WINFREY: And I’m like– I’m like, why are
you negotiating in the store with the thing? [LAUGHING] If you’re Melinda Gates,
you can’t negotiate, right?

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19 thoughts on “Melinda Gates on Raising Ambitious and Altruistic Children | SuperSoul Sunday | OWN

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  3. Wow abbiamo anche la signora paladina delle Γ©lite di lusso???? Eva…. Oh Γ¨ vero in questa sera ti chiami Melinda….davvero pensi che il tuo aspetto da gentildonna possa mascherare a tal punto la tua elite e componenti??? Certo in un'era di cretini che avete provveduto a costruire puΓ² darsi…. Per vostra fortuna o sfortuna il pianeta stesso e non Γ¨ stupido quanto vuoi…. Per cui eccoci qui per mettere i miei scritti nel vostroagglomerato di algoritmi destinati ad una equilibrata evoluzione della specie umana dico bene???πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ‘»πŸ§žπŸ€ΆπŸ‘ΎπŸ§œπŸ§šπŸ˜‡β˜ οΈπŸ’€πŸŽƒπŸ˜ˆπŸ‘½πŸ›Έ

  4. When your husband screws the avg Joe out of small amounts of money and doesn't pay them for work they've done the first thing they think of is hurting your kids! He is a greedy piece of s&$t!

  5. Opera might as well be having the same conversation with herself. Opera is wealthier than Melinda. Melinda is not a self made billionaire. Opera is

  6. Melinda Gates was spoiled from the beginning. Then she married a megabillionaire. So now lectures working class men on how they need to check their privilege.

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